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What’s Your Story? Life’s Journey Prompts

This year I am posting the #52Stories Project links from FamilySearch.org. Using these prompts helps each of us become a positive INfluence on our family’s inter-generational narrative.

The idea is to follow a weekly prompt to write down just one story every week for a year.  By the end of a year’s time , you will be 52 steps and 52 stories closer to having written your personal history.

I use Personal Historian 2 Software to record and organize my personal history by topic as well as my daily journal entries.

Challenge:  Write down the details of your life to “define the dash” that exists between your birth date and death date.

Here’s the #52Stories life journey prompts by theme that will take us through the summer:

April’s theme is: Home and Health. Click here for more questions to answer for April.
May’s theme is: Mothers and Motherhood. Click here for more questions to answer for May.
June’s theme is:  Fathers and Fatherhood. Click here for more questions to answer for June.
July’s theme is:  Events and Milestones. Click here for more questions to answer for July.
August’s theme is:  Travel and Vacations. Click here for more questions to answer for August.

Why write down your experiences?

Your experiences as TODAY’s ChangeMaker™ are of great worthBe sure to write them down.

Ordinary events help people know who you really are from the INside out and how you think and operate in the world.  Happy times uplift us. Many of us have come through or are coming through some real rough patches along the way, too. The steps you take and courage you muster to do the almost-impossible has value for those who may follow in your footsteps as they traverse their own path in life.  Never underestimate the value of lessons learned through experiencing difficulty, adversity and personal trials.  Also, sharing happy times brings hope to others when they see that there’s more to life than drudging through it.

Through writing down your life experiences and observations, it may become crystal clear to you and others how an individual can become their best, most happy and capable selves.  You may learn what personal character traits contribute to strong, safe, secure family relationships, and in contract, you can see what detracts from and destroys them.  This knowledge can help you develop a healthy concern about contributing positively to the future of your family line.  It can become a major driver for living a purpose-filled life.  It can help bring direction to the course of life. You may be able to see thought patterns, habit patterns and family patterns through writing things down that help you see what helps you stay strong and, on the other hand, you will be better positioned to identify what is destructive so you can take steps to help change it.

Ready, Set, GROW!

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Personal History Tool Tips for Spring and Summer:

Flip-Pal™ mobile scanner –  Portable, easy flip-and-scan-technology.  You can even scan pictures in the frame or while they remain in their photo albums!  I sit on the sofa in comfort and scan to my hearts delight.  My grandson’s love to help.  This is a great summer project that connects the whole family to their positive memories.

Legacy Family Tree Softwareis the software I use to easily preserve my genealogical information.  It is important to have a software on your computer for your records.  Don’t rely on online record-keeping alone.

Family ChartMastersCreate a beautiful, Family Tree Chart for your home to strengthen your posterity. Remember your roots and also your one-and-only, unique and vital place on your family tree.

JOURNALriffic– Use the journaling method—the 4 Steps of Discovery—in the ebook I authored.  It was written specifically for TODAY’s ChangeMakers like you. It will you how to put an end to negative thinking and destructive tendencies in yourself or your family line in order to enjoy more peace-of-mind and happiness.

Heritage Collector SuiteYour complete Family History Management System  This has everything you need to get your family history clutter into one, orderly place.  Store and retrieve photos, documents, videos, etc.

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Carolyn Calton is an online educator and ReNEW YOU Life Strategist. As founder of FamilyTreeQuest.com, CarolynCalton.com and as CEO of Ron Newsom's LiahonaLightAcademy.com, Carolyn helps sincere, determined men and women embrace with certainty a safe, secure framework for creating their own brighter and happier future TODAY—no matter their past. Turning heartache to happiness, those who Join her ReNEW YOU Classes and Joyful Breakthrough Membership Circles at FamilyTreeQuest.com, learn how to turn stress, anxiety, anger and dysfunction to hope, direction, happiness and peace in order to renew and regenerate themselves, their families and family lines.

Can positive memories help treat mental health problems?

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ReGENERATE and ReNEW YOU:

A study highlighting the effectiveness of using positive memories and images to help generate positive emotions has been published by researchers….

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/04/160420083949.htm

Dr. Daniel Amen says it this way on Facebook:

A study highlighting the effectiveness of using positive memories and images to help generate positive emotions has been published by researchers. The work suggests that savouring positive memories can generate positive emotions. Increasing positive emotion can have a range of benefits including reducing attention to and experiences of threat.

I have learned that when coming out of traumatic experiences sometimes everything in the past seems to become tainted.  There is a desire not to look back anymore because it’s either too painful or too confusing.

There are some memories with people you’ve loved or trusted who have not breached that trust, or happy memories with loving others purely from your own heart, like children, that can nourish and strengthen TODAY’s ChangeMakers (you and me)  in very good ways.

INspired Action Step:  Be proactive in savoring at least one positive memory daily to GENERATE positive emotions. After all, we are focused on the generations.  To be a positive INfluence, we must ReGENERATE and ReNEW ourselves first.

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About Family Tree Gal, Carolyn Calton Carolyn Calton

Carolyn Calton is an online educator and ReNEW YOU Life Strategist. As founder of FamilyTreeQuest.com, CarolynCalton.com and as CEO of Ron Newsom's LiahonaLightAcademy.com, Carolyn helps sincere, determined men and women embrace with certainty a safe, secure framework for creating their own brighter and happier future TODAY—no matter their past. Turning heartache to happiness, those who Join her ReNEW YOU Classes and Joyful Breakthrough Membership Circles at FamilyTreeQuest.com, learn how to turn stress, anxiety, anger and dysfunction to hope, direction, happiness and peace in order to renew and regenerate themselves, their families and family lines.

God did hear our cries and answer our prayers.

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TIP:  Learn from the faith-promoting experiences of others–especially from those who are a member of your own family line.

I was reading this morning about a people who were living a fairly ordinary life, and then they were attacked. (Interesting how life sometimes goes when all is going well, and we are slow to remember the Lord.) These people remembered that they could be delivered “out of the hands of their enemies” because of THIS. They said, “for we were awakened to a remembrance of the deliverance of our fathers. And God did hear our cries and did answer our prayers; and we did go forth in his might.”*

Even though these people lived thousands of years ago, the records they kept and the stories passed down from their forefathers helped them awaken to the source of strength and INsight and deliverance from their enemies that could help them beyond their own capacity.  How many of us, when times get tough, remember something we may have forgotten about the strength, fortitude, resilience amid great obstacles or trials, that a family member of our own went through and rose above.  There are countless stories of faith and fortitude waiting to be discovered within our own family history.

Last night I was watching the show 17 Miracles. Among my heritage are many Mormon Pioneers.  The particular company of pioneers depicted in this movie left for their destination late in the season, and they endured hardships beyond comprehension.  They were all just mortal men, women and children who were trying to do the best they could for their families.  They faced extreme and severe circumstances with hunger, fatigue, death, deprivation, equipment failure, and so much more that called for extraordinary faith and endurance.  Amidst it all, there were miracles.

During a time of extreme hunger, one woman obtained beef jerky in a miraculous way.  She returned to the camp and shared with her children and others.  No doubt this saved lives.  At the end of the show, it tells of how one of her family members did not believe this story–even though she had sacrificed so much and endured much hardship. Later, thankfully, someone else from the company mentioned it in the presence of the one who did not believe it.

After watching the show, it seemed so sad to me that her own family member wouldn’t understand or believe which must have been life-saving and such a blessing to her. I think many faithful parents in today’s world may somehow relate to this–even though our times and unique challenges are very different.   In my own way, I identify with the feeling of sacrificing your all for the sake of your family members, only to be often misunderstood or criticized for the very thing that kept you and them alive–physically, emotionally or spiritually.

It was encouraging to remember that the awareness of the value of our faith in God and fortitude amid trials and obstacles may even jump a generation or two before being rediscovered, yet our sacrifices are not lost.  It may be the very thing that helps one of our posterity to be strong and encouraged amidst their own trials with faith, family, friends or circumstances.

Whose story in your family line is waiting to be known or rediscovered?

Gordon B Hinckley shared this account of the rescue of those spoken of in the movie 17 Miracles.

“It was in … desperate and terrible circumstances—hungry, exhausted, their clothes thin and ragged—that [the handcart companies] were found by the rescue party. As the rescuers appeared on the western horizon breaking a trail through the snow, they seemed as angels of mercy. And indeed they were. The beleaguered emigrants shouted for joy, some of them. Others, too weak to shout, simply wept and wept and wept.

“There was now food to eat and some warmer clothing. But the suffering was not over, nor would it ever end in mortality. Limbs had been frozen, and the gangrenous flesh sloughed off from the bones.

“The carts were abandoned, and the survivors were crowded into the wagons of the rescuers. The long rough journey of three hundred, four hundred, even five hundred miles between them and this valley was especially slow and tedious because of the storms. On November 30, 104 wagons, loaded with suffering human cargo, came into the Salt Lake Valley. Word of their expected arrival had preceded them. It was Sunday, and again the Saints were gathered in the Tabernacle. Brigham Young stood before the congregation and said:

“‘As soon as this meeting is dismissed I want the brethren and sisters to repair to their homes. …

“‘The afternoon meeting will be omitted, for I wish the sisters to … prepare to give those who have just arrived a mouthful of something to eat, and to wash them and nurse them. …

“‘Some you will find with their feet frozen to their ankles; some are frozen to their knees and some have their hands frosted … ; we want you to receive them as your own children, and to have the same feeling for them’ (quoted in Hafen, Handcarts to Zion, p. 139)” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1991, 76–77; or Ensign, Nov. 1991, 54).

Francis Webster, a member of the Martin Handcart Company said, “Mistake to send the Handcart Company out so late in the season? Yes! But I was in that company and my wife was in it….We suffered beyond anything you can imagine and many died of exposure and starvation, but did you ever hear a survivor of that company utter a word of criticism? Every one of us came through with the absolute knowledge that God lives for we became acquainted with Him in our extremities!”

In 1996, Gordon B. Hinckley, referring to the suffering of the Martin and Willie handcart companies,  said:

“I am grateful that those days of pioneering are behind us. I am thankful that we do not have brethren and sisters stranded in the snow, freezing and dying… But there are people, not a few, whose circumstances are desperate and who cry out for help and relief.

“There are so many who are hungry and destitute across this world who need help. … Ours is a great and solemn duty to reach out and help them, to lift them, to feed them if they are hungry, to nurture their spirits if they thirst for truth and righteousness.

“There are so many young people who wander aimlessly and walk the tragic trail of drugs, gangs, immorality, and the whole brood of ills that accompany these things. There are widows who long for friendly voices and that spirit of anxious concern which speaks of love. There are those who were once warm in the faith, but whose faith has grown cold. Many of them wish to come back but do not know quite how to do it. They need friendly hands reaching out to them. With a little effort, many of them can be brought back to feast again at the table of the Lord.

“… I would hope, I would pray that each of us … would resolve to seek those who need help, who are in desperate and difficult circumstances, and lift them in the spirit of love … (in Conference Report, Oct. 1996, 118; or Ensign, Nov. 1996, 86).

INspired Action Steps:  It’s now your turn on earth.  Who will you lift and serve?  What will be your story of faithful obedience to God?  There are those in your family line who follow you.  Rejoice that we live in a day of opportunity.  Rejoice that we have the opportunity to choose living a life with faith in Christ being fully planted in our hearts.  There are and will always be miracles.  I INcourage you to faithfully use your INfluence for good, and, in doing so, you will see the hand of God unfold in your life and in the lives of others in unlimited miraculous ways.

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About Family Tree Gal, Carolyn Calton Carolyn Calton

Carolyn Calton is an online educator and ReNEW YOU Life Strategist. As founder of FamilyTreeQuest.com, CarolynCalton.com and as CEO of Ron Newsom's LiahonaLightAcademy.com, Carolyn helps sincere, determined men and women embrace with certainty a safe, secure framework for creating their own brighter and happier future TODAY—no matter their past. Turning heartache to happiness, those who Join her ReNEW YOU Classes and Joyful Breakthrough Membership Circles at FamilyTreeQuest.com, learn how to turn stress, anxiety, anger and dysfunction to hope, direction, happiness and peace in order to renew and regenerate themselves, their families and family lines.

New ReNEW YOU INspirations Topic: COMPASSION

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Hello!
Today is MINDFUL MONDAY.
I’m glad you’ve chosen to take daily steps toward
becoming a happier, healthier, more positive YOU!

Through your choices today, you are shaping generations.

We are here on earth to remember and live true to who we really are by
clearing ourselves of unproductive or destructive thought patterns,
habit patterns and family patterns.  This benefits both ourselves and others.

Your INfluence matters!
You may be just the person to create positive change that your family line has waited for.

This month, we are working toward strengthening
the principle and power of

COMPASSION

In an effort to create positive change in a world full of turmoil,
we’re joining together to focus on one principle a month
using the JOURNALriffic Method of journaling, called the 4 Steps of Discovery,
as part of creating personal growth and positive INfluence.

We are using our personal power to embrace these attributes
to help stabilize and heal our hearts and homes.

Join our monthly telecall and receive weekly recorded messages.
See details at http://carolyncalton.com/ten-minute-treasures/

Here are some basics for you
to begin pondering the principle of COMPASSION.

noun
A feeling of deep sympathy ad sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune,
accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.

verb
compassionate

Words with the same or similar meanings (synonyms):
benevolence, empathy, grace, humanity, kindness, mercy,
sorrow, tenderness, charity, clemency, consideration, humaneness
softheartedness, tenderheartedness, yearning, fellow feeling

Words with opposite meanings (anyonyms):
animosity, cruelty, ill will, meanness, mercilessness, harshness,
hatred, indifference

Here are some INspiring quotes about COMPASSION:

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If you know of another principle that would be more helpful to you right now,
feel free to choose that as your principle this month instead.
A list of helpful principles can be found in the back of JOURNALriffic.
A modified version of the 4 Steps of Discovery can be found
on the Daily JOURNALriffic Prompts tab on this website.
You can find steps for each weekday there.

Ponder these thoughts as you INtegrate them into your daily living
We are here to help and not hurt ourselves and others,
which is the goal of Family Tree Quest and
TODAY’s ChangeMakers.
Write your observations and ideas in your journal.

YOU ignite and unite the power of generations!
Ready. Set. GROW!
Happy Journaling.

Resources:
Purchase JOURNALriffic.
Additional Family History resources, including Personal Historian Software.
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Dictionary source: “compassion”. Dictionary.com Unabridged. Random House, Inc. 07 Mar. 2016. <Dictionary.com http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/compassion>.

Source of synonyms and antonyms: “compassion”. Roget’s 21st Century Thesaurus, Third Edition. Philip Lief Group 2009. 07 Mar. 2016. <Thesaurus.com http://www.thesaurus.com/browse/compassion>.

Disclaimer: Please remember that information contained here is provided as an informational resource only and is not a substitute for medical or professional care.

Disclosure of Material Connection : I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”I am Carolyn Calton, the founder of Family Tree Quest and the CEO of the Liahona Light Institute, of which the Liahona Light Academy is its online arm. I am the author of JOURNALriffic. Lori Wiser is an affiliate of Amazon, and if you click Additional Family History Resources or Unique Gift Ideas and Products, you will access some of my affiliates. If you make a purchase, I will receive a small commission. You will not be charged any extra for your purchase through these links. I thank you for using these links.

About Family Tree Gal, Carolyn Calton Carolyn Calton

Carolyn Calton is an online educator and ReNEW YOU Life Strategist. As founder of FamilyTreeQuest.com, CarolynCalton.com and as CEO of Ron Newsom's LiahonaLightAcademy.com, Carolyn helps sincere, determined men and women embrace with certainty a safe, secure framework for creating their own brighter and happier future TODAY—no matter their past. Turning heartache to happiness, those who Join her ReNEW YOU Classes and Joyful Breakthrough Membership Circles at FamilyTreeQuest.com, learn how to turn stress, anxiety, anger and dysfunction to hope, direction, happiness and peace in order to renew and regenerate themselves, their families and family lines.

Gratitude

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.  It turns what we have into enough, and more.  It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.  It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.  Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”  -Melody Beattie

Gratitude is powerful.  If you develop the ability to be truly grateful each day, your life will change for the better.  Make gratitude a habit.

Lori Wiser recommends Rhonda Byrne’s book, The Magic, to help you develop a life of gratitude.  In her book, she takes you through 28 days of practicing gratitude.  This is her “magic formula:”

1. Deliberately think and say the magic words thank you.

2. The more you deliberately think and say the magic words, thank you, the more gratitude you feel.

3. The more gratitude you deliberately think and feel, the more abundance you receive.

 

 “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” -Cicero

 

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